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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has one sister, four years older. She is 76, her sister 80. My Aunt lives out of state, across the country. For most of her adult life my mom has lived many states away from my Aunt and continues to do so. Recently my aunt came to visit. She is moving soon and mentioned to my mom that she would be, "getting rid of" some silver that belonged to their uncle. My aunt did not end up with this silver because it was left to her in a will, she was just given the silver by her uncle's third wife. When my aunt said she'd be getting rid of the silver my mom said she'd like to have it and would send my aunt a check for the postage if she'd be willing to send it to her. My aunt agreed. Fast forward six weeks or so...my mom is talking on the phone to my aunt and asks if she'd had a chance to send the silver to which my aunt responds, "no, I gave it to my daughter." My mom then says, "I think you'd rather give things to Goodwill than ever let me have something." My aunt then responds "I'll make sure you get it!" and hangs up. She has not contacted my mom since...but a day or so later my mom got two vicious emails from my aunt's kids...one blaming my mom for keeping my grandma from ever having a relationship leading to her having a long lonely life etc, etc.... Stuff that had nothing to do with the silver or anything like that. Now. I know the thing my mom said to my aunt wasn't very nice, and obviously speaks to some built up resentment on her part. For the record my mom is a very nice, typically non-confrontational person who has never as an adult had a fight with her sister. For most of their adult life they have lived a great geographical distance apart. My mom has never been anything but kind and nice to my aunt's kids (who are in their 50's by the way).

I am so shocked by this! My mom never calls my aunt out for stuff like this and she has had a pattern of dismissing my mom on things like this. But whatever they have going on between them I am really shocked that my cousins decided to step into it and send out such ugly emails over something so stupid. My one cousin told my mom that he is writing her off forever! And you might think there is clearly more involved...but I'm not even sure how! They live in California and we live in this area and have for many years. My mom sees them once every few years and that's the way it's been for so long. I'm especially upset that my one cousin tried to say my mom was responsible for my grandma's, "long, lonely life." My grandma died 20 years ago first of all and second my mom lived here and my grandma there, they were close but my mom never interfered in her life...she couldn't have prevented something like that i she'd wanted to.

Thanks for reading if you get this far. I'm not sure there is really anything to say but I just feel bad for my mom. She's always so nice and when she says one thing she gets this thrown at her. (she is not nearly as upset by this as I am...more confused)[/quote]

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