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[quote=Anonymous]My mother is en route and will be arriving today. She will only be staying with us for a couple of days, then will stay with some of my husband's family.

I am full of anxiety, internally. My mother and I get along just fine, and she is a decent person in the present day. Our issues are complicated, though, and have to do with horrible decisions she made long ago that unfortunately still spill into the present day.

I have always kept her at arms length (easy to do since she lives 1000 miles away). My husband's family, however, have invited her to stay with them for a whole month (I am due with my daughter any day now). The fact that I now have no control over her visits with me does not help.

I guess I am looking for coping strategies. It drives me crazy having her around. My husband and I are introverted types, anyway, and my mother is the opposite so sometimes just doesn't get it. Originally she just assumed that she would be staying with us for a month, so I have been successful at setting boundaries with her about her visit.

I try to remind myself that she is weak and needy, which actually does help me to let go of some of the animosity I have toward her. And I have gone to therapy, which helped some, but no amount of therapy is ever going to heal things completely due to the ongoing nature of the situation.

If you are in a similar situation, how did you get through it? I want to find a way to make it work so I am not fretting about all of this during the first few weeks of my daughter's life.[/quote]

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