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[quote=Anonymous]My sister met her now husband in high school and they married when they were 28.  During that time, they both grew up a lot but, luckily, they grew together.

Anyway, it sounds strange to me that he wants to earn six figures before he gets married.  Unless he's planning some huge wedding extravaganza you don't need a lot of money to get married.  Very weird.

If I were you, I'd move on.  Not so much because 7 years is too long to be together before getting married per se but because of his lack of respect for you and lack of patience that you don't like the subjects he likes.  That sounds really disrespectful and egocentric.  Does he take a big interest in the subjects you like?  Does he enjoy hanging out with a bunch of your girlfriends and discussing the topics which interest them and you?  You don't have to have exactly the same interests to love eachother.  My DH is a music nerd and I'll never share his level of music nerdness.  He also loves sports and I don't care about sports.  But he has his best guy friend to talk to about these subjects.  I love to get together with my mom friends and talk about stuff but DH only has limited patience for hanging out with my girlfriends and talking about the stuff we like to talk about.  We share interests in lots of other things (travel, food, art etc.) so it's all good.  But most of all, we respect eachother and eachother's interest or lack of interest in various subjects.  My family members are mostly scientists and I can't imagine them talking about their scientific work with anyone outside their fields and expecting them to understand/take a big interest.

To me it sounds like he is picking fights with you and nitpicking about ways in which you're not perfect.  Sounds like he may have decided to move on but he is too chicken to just end things.[/quote]

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