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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her flat out that you turned down a precious FT daycare slot at HER request and ask her to cover the cost of a sitter for that day until the daycare spot comes open again.  Make sure she knows that it may be years.

Also, this is just my Jersey showing, but she would get nothing from me.  No pictures.  No phone calls.  No skyping.  If she offered to babysit for an evening, I would decline.  I would be effing pissed off and it would take me years to get over it.  I do not do well when I am worried about our childcare situation.  If she wanted to see her grandchild, it would be completely up to her son to facilitate it.  She would not get any quarter from me.

My mom looked after our child full time from when I went back to work for several months.  We worked out a schedule ahead of time to cover a couple of trips that she had planned and she was a Godsend.  If she had flaked out on us, I don't know what I would have done.  [/quote]

Watch out.  Karma is a bitch.  One day you will be a MIL and hopefully our DIL or SIL will be nicer to you than you are to your MIL because I wouldn't treat my worst enemy like this, let alone a family member.

So OP's MIL misjudged.  It's been many years since she watched a child and after the second week, she realize that she's older and probably doesn't have the stamina that she thought she did.  I know several grandparents who are fit and able and they're fine for 3-4 hours.  By the 5th and 6th hours, they're really tired and by the 7th and 8th hour, they're realizing they aren't as young as they feel most of time.  So now she's trying to get out of the long-term sitting.  So you ask if she can do another week or two while you research options.  You also learn not to make any permanent plans around your MIL's offers until you have a chance to try them out.  I am so glad that both of us have a good relationship with our respective MILs.  But part of that is because we treat them like human beings, who make mistakes, overstay their welcome sometimes and we all just try to live and learn and be more prepared the next time.[/quote]

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