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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her flat out that you turned down a precious FT daycare slot at HER request and ask her to cover the cost of a sitter for that day until the daycare spot comes open again.  Make sure she knows that it may be years.

Also, this is just my Jersey showing, but she would get nothing from me.  No pictures.  No phone calls.  No skyping.  If she offered to babysit for an evening, I would decline.  I would be effing pissed off and it would take me years to get over it.  I do not do well when I am worried about our childcare situation.  If she wanted to see her grandchild, it would be completely up to her son to facilitate it.  She would not get any quarter from me.

My mom looked after our child full time from when I went back to work for several months.  We worked out a schedule ahead of time to cover a couple of trips that she had planned and she was a Godsend.  If she had flaked out on us, I don't know what I would have done.  [/quote]

Holy cow. At 33 I am no MIL, but pp you are a witch.

I'm assuming MIL wasn't being compensated, and was donating her personal time for childcare. It doesn't matter if she's retired, doesn't work, whatever - her time is her time, and she intended on giving it (and you intended on taking it) for free. You can't really hold people accountable for rescinding something that was basically volunteering.

I think it would be considerate of MIL to offer childcare for the 3rd week (per the original plan), but to be honest, you probably should have waited on making concrete plans until MIL spent more time getting in the groove. It's GOOD of her to realize that she can't handle the load right now, and better now than later. I don't think you should have moved forward with the daycare changes without testing the waters for at least a month, and after MIL spent at least several full days of childcare. I do think you guys jumped the gun.

She doesn't sound like a bad MIL at all, she's just being honest. [/quote]

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