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[quote=Anonymous]In-laws live on west coast. We typically visit 2-3 times a year, staying for one week at a time (given distance travelled, plus jet lag, it doesn't make sense to stay for less than a week at a time). One of the times we typically visit is over winter break. SIL, who lives locally to my in-laws, is due with her first baby at the same time as we would visit. The question is whether we should still visit as we normally do.

On the pro side is everyone says they want us to visit. SIL, who is pretty naive to the ways of babies, says she'll be eager to show off her newborn. But, I don't think she's really thinking about how tired she'll be, how all-consuming the newborn is, and how many germs my young children will bring with them (winter, long airplane ride, etc.).

Ideally, we'd visit for a weekend. But given the distance, that's not possible. I don't want to insult them by not going -- I want to meet my niece/nephew too! But I don't want to go all the way out there and either be a burden to my SIL, keep my MIL away from her new baby grandchild/helping her daughter. And if we're not going to spend time with them, I'd rather not go.

Some relevant history: when my first child was born, all the in-laws -- MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, grandmother-in-law -- descended on me when baby was 4 weeks old, and we all agree (in retrospect) that it was a mistake.[/quote]

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