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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure where to post this, hope it's okay here--looking for a reality check.  Am I even crazy to think of this?

DH's best friend and wife have been struggling to have a baby for years.  FH (friend-husband) have been very open with DH about the process, so as far as I know, they have no known causes for their infertility, and they  have tried multiple (7?) rounds of IUI--no pregnancies (and thus no miscarriages), but nothing further.  Their plans are currently on hold while they are traveling for FH's work for the next 2 years.  FW (friend-wife) and I are friendly; not close but I think that's more due to a lack of proximity and time (we've never lived near eachother, DH and FH were friends from college).  I offered to go with FW once to an IUI when we were visiting and FH was out of town, and she seemed very touched and grateful for my presence.

Anyway, I've always thought privately to myself that if they ever got to the point of considering a surrogate or gestational carrier, I would offer.  I meet all the candidate requirements per this webpage: http://artparenting.com/surrogates-how-it-works.html and we share similar lifestyle/religious/ethical views.  I decided to mention it to DH recently, and he was surprised, but happy and willing, if it ever came to that.

So, now we come down to it.  Would it ever be appropriate for us to mention this preemptively? (DH would probably tell FH privately, by phone.)  Or do we need to wait for them to bring it up?  Do I need to do more research / consider other things first, and if so, can you point me to some good, in-depth, resources?  Or should we just drop the idea altogether?  I just want to help our friends, but perhaps the best way to do that is to MY(M)OB.  Thanks.[/quote]

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