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[quote=Anonymous]The thought of not having a second child felt worse than the thought of going through all the IVF torture again.

I do not mean this to sound discouraging, but I also think you need to be honest with yourself about getting pregnant naturally.  I think many of us who suffered from primary infertility have the fantasy that the second will just happen.  Poof!  I sure did.  We tried on our own for 6 months.  To me, trying naturally just strings your life and your emotions along.  After everything you've been through, are you really going to be able to have a casual, whatever happens happens attitude?  I know I never could have.  BUT if you can that's great.  Problem solved.

Trying for my second sucked.  Every part of it sucked.  It was one of the worst times of my life.  In my case, it was much harder then the process with my first (took longer and more obstacles).  I doubted myself many times as to whether I was doing the right thing and whether it was all worth it.  But the minute that second baby arrived, I didn't regret one second of it.  That feeling has only grown over time.  What I went through to have my kids has faded and now I'm really at peace and happy.  I am grateful I got a happy ending though.  I fully understand that many people go through all of the torture and don't get that happy ending.  I am profoundly lucky.

So I return to what I said first...figure out which feels worse...going through IVF again and all that entails or not having the second child.  It's a terrible process so only do it if you really want the child.  If you are happy with your family of three, then move on with your life and enjoy.

Good luck.[/quote]

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