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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to look at your parenting and change something.  Kids go in phases of the favorite parent, but the rude behavior is not acceptable.  I would take away privileges (and dad supporting it - let dad do a time out or consequence if he is rude to you and your husband sees it and is home).[/quote]

Please go back to General Parenting.  You are posting to the SN board.  GP approaches don't really work with SN kids. [/quote]

Yes, it does.  I understand where I am posting.  Just because a child has special needs, does not mean they have a free pass for poor behavior.  When our child acts up, the first thing we do is look at the behavior, figure out where it is coming from and change our behavior. [/quote]

When you have parented a kid with an ASD/HFA, please come back and share advice. If you haven't, kindly STFU. It doesn't work that way.[/quote]

I do have a child with high functioning ASD.  We can very much tell when it is a typical 5 year old behavior vs. he doesn't understand and we parent him accordingly.  When he was younger, time outs were a joke. Part of having autism is the need to be taught social communication, which includes understanding others feelings.  Or, they will not be able to survive in this world.  We excused behavior as you are when our child was 2-3, but at 5, it is not acceptable.  Kids do go through phases.  My kid is in a dad phase too.  I think its great as it gives me a break.  But, if my child ever behaved as OP's child did, we would deal with it and make sure it was unacceptable.  You need to change your parenting, regardless of special needs to deal with a child during that specific age and stage and teach them what is acceptable or not or you are going to end up with an adult child who cannot function at all as they are used to being given into with no consequences for bad behavior.  We don't treat our child any differently than our "typical child" (beyond therapy, private school and other things we would not have done otherwise given the cost).  We have the same expectations for behavior and just modify the discipline accordingly to the age, stage and level of functioning.

What is your advice beyond to attack assuming you are the only one who has a child with autism and has social communication issues?[/quote]

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