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[quote=Anonymous]Broke up with my first love 15 years ago because, like you, she moved away to college.  We ended on good terms.  It took me a while to truly get over the break up even though I was dating a lot of women during the college years.

After college we would stay in touch a few times a year.  Usually on our birthdays just to catch up.  Also around that time I used to dream about her a lot and that lasted for 5-6 years even though I was in a LTR and had a child.

To this day I still have dreams about her once in a while.  We have begun speaking more in the last year because I was going through a breakup with DD's mother and my first love had a lot of good advice.  Plus she is a good listener.  It helped a lot.

I always thought my first love was the one that got away.  That we just met too early in life and if it were later....we would probably have married.  I felt that way up until last year when we started talking more.  That is until she started venting about her current LTR and how she was upset about the things her BF did.  Things that were really not that big of a deal.  She was willing to end her relationship with her BF because he used chewing tobacco when he would golf.  Maybe 2-3 times a year.

It made me realize that she is not willing to deal with anyone that has some flaws.  If you don't quit what she doesn't like you doing, no matter how minor it is, she'll resent you.

When she left me for college, she told me:  "One day you'll thank me for his".

And now I totally understand.  If we would have stayed together through college and beyond, i would have missed a lot of experiences I had that made me who I am today.  I would have also been in a LTR with someone who wouldn't work with my flaws.

She still holds a special place in my heart...but is no longer the one that got away.[/quote]

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