Reply to my adult brother uses my parents

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "my adult brother uses my parents"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My 32-year-old brother lives in California about an hour from both my parents and his in-laws (two sets of them as his wife's folks are divorced). He spends almost every weekend seeing his wife's family in some way, shape or form and very little time with my parents. It kills me.

He's not even always available to see them on a birthday or mothers/fathers day. Yet whenever he and his wife go out of town, they call my parents to take care of their dog.

I just had a baby and am admittedly emotional and tired of living across country from my family. My brother and I have a pretty good relationship --- I have previously told him that when you live within driving distance, it is important to be there for parent bdays, mothers day, fathers day etc and that my husband and I do that for his family (who live two hours away).

I just found out that my brother has been offering my parents vacation home to his inlaws and a friend for use on trips --- my father told me he feels a little taken advantage of for this. My mother has previously said she feels like he only cares about her as a dogsitter (which has been my thought all along but I didn't mention this) --- I DO NOT trash my brother to either parent or criticize his behavior because I feel like it is hurtful enough without me adding to it.

What can I do? Anything? Is this my parents battle? I would never say anything to them, but I do feel like I should again broach the subject with my brother --- but since he is a married adult, I also wonder if it's my place.....
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics