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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL and FIL live 2 hours away and they get one weekend a month off from work so have started texting me the past two months asking to come down those weekends. Now given it's mid summer, things have been extremely busy. In July when she wanted to come, we were just returning from Hawaii with our 13 month old, so I said no, next time. She's so hyper, and I knew it was going to take days to get my son back on his schedule, plus my house was messy and I didn't want to have to deal with entertaining them. It is not relaxing when they are around, at least, not with my MIL. SHe wants to talk for hours and play with my son, and then she whines when he's napping and she can't play with him. She's basically crazy. She texted me last night asking to come the second week in august when my husband, her son, is away with his guys for their annual golfing trip. So I told my husband...he said maybe they can just come sat afternoon - sunday. So I texted her back and told her my husband is out of town, she wrote back asking if my son and I would be here. Then I kind of lied and wrote her back, and told her we would all be away and suggested they come another weekend.  She apparently texted my husband also asking the same question, he asked if I had gotten back to her. I told him I told her I was busy and to come another weekend. He got sort of offended and reminded me they ONLY have one saturday off per month and that I should suck it up. Frankly I don't think that I owe entertaining his parents when he is off golfing with his buddies for 4 days!!  I like to spend time with my son and take him out places, and it would be really awkward having his parents stay here when he's not here. His mother is hard to communicate with, and she stresses me out. They are from a different culture, please note, but this isn't why. She just drives me nuts, and I need my down time when my husband is away, and my son needs his too!! So I'm not sure what to do.l I don't want to argue with my husband and offend him, but I don't feel that I am obligated. I shouldn't have to agree they can come that one weekend when the FIL does not have to work. My SIL lives 30 miles away, not sure why they can't stay with her. I could say that I have company, but it's not my place to tell them they need to stay with his sister. Clearly they only want to come and see my son, their grandson. But without my husband here, it's awkward. I am not really close to them, though they want to be. MIL drives me NUTS- she is anything but relaxing, need I say more. Then I have to manage things. And given she's never even offered to change a diaper I'm not going to dump him off on them. I'm not that kind of mom.[/quote]

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