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[quote=Anonymous]So my mother has a completely great life.  Healthy family, more money than they know what to do with happy kids, hobbies, etc...but for some reason is not the nicest person.  She is always nice to the kids but is mean to me and my husband.  She says snappy things, has no idea how to have a disagreement without it being a fight and has never apologized in her life.  If I try to calmly disagree with her she will call me an a$$hole sometimes and leave the room.  I try to diagnose her as something but I think it just comes down to her being mean and not a nice person because she can be pleasant sometimes to us and is very generous with her funds always buying the kids tons of clothes and stuff.  She will scream at us though if we are in her way as she is walking across the room instead if just saying excuse me.  I also never believe any story she tells me.  They are often exaggerated forms of the truth.  So I understand that in order to function in a nice way for my kids to see and be civil, limiting contact is probably the best way to go and biting my tongue.  I feel very badly though cutting her out of my life so much because even though she is mean to me, she is still my mother and I should cut her some slack right?  But I struggle because she is not nice and I especially don't like her being mean to my husband who is a great guy.  I often owner as well, why doesn't she want to be nicer to us.  Doesn't she want to have a close relationship with her daughter?  Or maybe she thinks we are close?  She definitely thinks you can go and say something rude and mean to someone and then act like nothing happened later that day.  Go right back to normal but that's hard for me.  I can only let so much roll off before it becomes too much.  We have had our drag out arguments and I have tried to sit her down calmly.  She always calls me a liar and says I have a problem.  It makes me so sad.  So I guess my question is, is it ok to release that relationship even though she is my mother?  How much slack do I cut her?  On the flip side my dad is awesome and it tears him up that we aren't close but he understands.  [/quote]

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