Reply to Glad we're family but oh sorry you thought we were friends?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Glad we're family but oh sorry you thought we were friends? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My cousin "Sally" is getting married this fall.  We were close in age and she was an only child, so  she was pretty tight with my sister and I growing up.  If it hadn't been for living on opposite sides of town, we probably would have been hanging out every weekend.  As adults, we took vacations together and she and my sister would visit me (they both live back in our hometown) for a girls weekend almost every year until the last couple years or so. So really, it was kind of a given that we'd be included in her bachelorette party- but then we weren't.  My aunt said that it was just the bridal party going out (her two closest friends from high school and future SIL) but then we were chatting with her other friends at the shower and they were all included on the evening festivities.  So really, it was just sis and I excluded (we also have two other cousins of age- but they would not have attended and Sally would have known that).

Now on one hand, I had a great time catching up with other family who I would not have seen if I had attended the bachelorette, but on the other, I'm pretty hurt. I never would have dreamed of not inclyding her in mine. There is a bit of a backstory here and I don't know how much of a role it played- Sally was a hot mess at my bachelorette a couple years ago- got crazy drunk and emotional and started making out with a random guy.  And yeah, she was dating her now-fiance at the time, who came and picked her up and took her home. She sent sis and I a text the next day apologizing and it has never been spoken of since.  But in a way she's barely spoken to us since. My sister is the stubborn type so when Sally blew off a couple lunch invites my sister stopped reaching out.  Me living further away was a bit different- we email, but it's usually initiated by me.  I tried to invite her and fiance out when I was home at Christmas but she was non-committal and blew me off.  At the shower she was all fake-nice and sought me out but it was mainly because she wanted to give me back a bunch of things I had given her from our wedding (with a clear no-return policy BTW- how hard is it just to take the box to goodwill?!).

Anyway, it's wierd.  Not being invited to the bachelorette was really just a confirmation that she no longer views me as a friend- just family. And that makes me kinda sad.  I don't know what, if anything, I could even do on my end- I didn't do anything wrong, and she's the one that pulled back.  Has anyone else had this kind of thing happen before?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics