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[quote=Anonymous]Three things--one, you need to decide on a call frequency that works for you.  If you can do twice a week, then tell your mother, "Mom, I want to keep in touch with you, but every day is too much for me.  I can call you on Sunday night and Skype with you and the kids once during the week--does Wednesday afternoon work for you?'' (or whatever).  She'll bitch and moan, and you just say, "I hear that you want to talk more often, but that just isn't going to work for me.  Do those two days sound good?"  Then when she texts or emails, you just say, "Busy with the kids now--talk to you on Sunday!"

Two, stop offering so many details.  Tell her what you're comfortable telling her.  And don't argue with her about your choices.  Say, "I hear you, but this is what DH and I have decided on."  Or, "Okay, we'll think about that."

Three, end the conversation when she calls you names or otherwise behaves inappropriately.  "Mom, it's not okay for you to call me a bitch, and I'm not going to listen to you call me names.  We'll talk again on Sunday, and I hope you're in a better mood then.  Bye!"  Then hang up.

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