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[quote=Anonymous]This is going to be a bit long, so please stay with me if possible.

My mom gets upset if I let more than 2 days go without speaking to her.  This past week has been crazy as we've been house hunting pretty much every day and getting affairs in order so that we could bid on a house (which we did Friday)  Needless to say I've been exhausted and not much in the mood for long conversations about nothing in particular.  But I still have picked up when she calls and have tried to have a conversation, but she gets mad when I'm not very talkative.  Anyways...

today she calls while I'm in the middle of trying to get some packing done while DS is napping.  I had already received 2 texts and 1 email from her today, so I knew if I didn't pick up I'd likely get more texts asking if everything is ok because I'm ignoring her.  So I pick up and she's talking about the weather, etc.  Then she asks if I've heard from the house yet and I said the realtor called yesterday with some good news but didn't go into specifics (it was that the other bid was rejected but no word on ours yet) and we hadn't spoken to her yet.  So she asks if we are looking at more houses and I say no because we want to wait and see with this one since it looks pretty good so far.  Which causes her to go into me at length about how I should keep looking for houses, I don't need DH to go with me (even though I've said I need DH to go because he is much more critical than me and picks up on things that I never even notice), etc.

So then she starts in on me about what I'm doing with DS (who is 20 months and I SAH with).  I said well last week was kind of a wash because we carted him to and from different houses (in a state 45 min away) pretty much every day.  Said today we were going to the park and tomorrow we will hit up the library and maybe go to the petting zoo later this week.  I should mention that we just moved to this area from living abroad, and we know no one yet (we've been here about a month) and are currently staying at a friend's house who is overseas.  So then she lays in on me how he needs to do more, how I'm not doing enough for him, how he needs to be around other kids, etc.  EVERY TIME, I talk to her,she gets in on me about this, even though we do something every day.

So she jokingly says that "just me nagging again" to which I respond "yup.  And you say this every time we talk and it is really starting to make me feel like you think I'm a terrible mother".  Instead of apologizing or even trying to say that that's not what she thinks, she starts yelling at me that talking to me is like pulling teeth, how I obviously don't care about her because I don't want to talk to her, that I'm miserable to be around, and just gets into a huff.  I told her I was in the middle of packing when she called so wasn't exactly int he conversation mindset.  She then just says well then forget it, I guess I'm not good enough for you to talk to.  And hangs up

This was about 30 min ago and I'm still stewing.  This stuff happens ALL THE TIME.  I've talked to her so many times about it.  That I'm not much of a phone talker and will gladly email or text but talking on the phone during nap time is pretty much not going to happen as DS takes 1 nap and that is my only time during the day to get stuff done.  She calls me a bitch for not being more open with her and that I hate her because I don't share eveyrhting that goes on in my life.  I've tried to explain that I'm a private person and calling and discussing my day isn't really something I do with anyone.  It's boring to me to hear me talk about my day!

Anyways, I just can't move on rightnow.  I feel like calling her and apologizing, but I'm just SO sick of her putting me through this all the time.  It has to be at least once a week at this point.  I've often times thought about cutting her out of my life, but she's actually a fantastic grandmother, and it would kill my dad, who is already sick.

Maybe I just needed to vent.  And to that I thank you guys.  I'm starting therapy soon because I have a lot of issues caused by my mom and my therapist will definitely get her money's worth! [/quote]

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