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[quote=Anonymous]I really need your help with this situation. I'm in a new relationship with a guy who I care for very much. But everything is not perfect. He's not working (but job hunting), still very dependent on his family, has low self esteem and still tends to be very passive. When we first started talking I didn't think i would really actually want a date with this guy. He was too needy and depressed. He tends to like to throw alot of pity parties for himself and loves to point the blame. When people ask for my advice I'm usually brutally honest. Instead if fully dropping him like everyone else does I gave him a chance and fell for him. I broke my rule and did a house date and I'm kinda glad I did. He spent the weekend over here. I enjoyed spending the time is, but it quickly got frustrating. I was the one who had to supply everything. All my food rations that I had planned for one person went down the drain and were ate up in two days. He would be hinting that he needed money for transportation and this and that. I would brush it off. I'm determined NOT to be his Sugar momma. I don't want to be like Nikko and Mimi. I feel like I've made this clear. And I'm attempting to set boundaries. I'm been helping him look for jobs and even forwarded him to a job fair. I felt like I had to do most of the pushing for this job fair. He seemed to not care if he was on time. Honestly this made me pretty frustrated. At the end of the day, I think he views me as selfish.

Btw I'm far from perfect either. Due to my past I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. A lot of people would say I'm living above my means. I'm living a fancy apartment that I can't afford but pushed to get in. I needed the apartment for the location. I think people think I'm rich but I'm not I'm actually poor. I'm work three jobs and I am still working hard to get my GED
and my license.

Anyways yesterday, me and him had a huge fight. I went through his phone and saw these text messages between him and all these other females. I made to read all of them so I didn't get anything wrong. He's talking to these females like he doesn't have a girlfriend. When I confronted him. He immediately got defensive and told me I was lying. I read everything. I became upset having to sit here and have him defend these females in my face and I destroyed his phone. I know I was wrong here...but I was hurt. From there it was constant fighting all day. He then became stand offish towards me and flipped the advice I gave him to say a was criticizing him. I honestly don't  know how to fix this or move forward. Please help.

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