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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I have many issues, and have been in therapy for a couple of years, with ups and downs but no significant improvement. 
I suspect that he has ADD. I mentioned this to our therapist in a one to one session and he thinks it is possible. Neither the therapist or I have talked to DH about it yet. 
ADD or not, I am disappointed with this relationship for the forgetfulness, carelessness, the focus on the short term, etc. Same issues discussed over and over with no improvement. I do my best, but I do have the occasional outburst (like when he totally forgets I have been having liver cancer screening tests, when I have actually told him I discussed with him the dates I was going), then he blames everything on me for not being able to speak to him nicely. Specially for bad things (like the possibility of my cancer, or my DDs problems at school, and many others), he totally forgets to ask and follow up, which can often leave me totally alone in some family problem resolution, etc.

ADD could be an explanation for the way he is and, potentially, a resolution to some of our problems. But he has an attitude like there can't be anything wrong with him and, even if he did the ADD testing, I don't think it would not be enough for him to understand how serious the consequences of his actions (or the lack of them) are.

Anybody been in this situation before? What made your partner click/ change?
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