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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b] Being estranged from father and brother probably doesn't mean anything good either.[/b] [/quote]

[b]Depends on the background.[/b]

His father could have been an alcoholic that abused him.  Or abused his mother.
His brother could have mental issues or is like his father.  So he keeps his distance.

My sister has some issues to deal with and she has brought a lot of drama in to our family.  So I keep FAR away as possible.  Has nothing to do with me other than I choose not to keep unnecessary drama in my life/family.[/quote]

+1 It all has to do with context.
MY DH was estranged from his father. He was abusive to all of his children, including my DH, but not as much as the others. One of my DH's brother's cut the entire family off and had been abusive towards my DH when he was a child, so no love lost there. The other siblings are introverts and have issues due to the abuse so they didn't really talk. I've been helping my DH reconnect with his siblings and they are developing a relationship.

You say he is "average" in looks. Do YOU think he is "average" or does he seem handsome/sexy to [i]you[/i]?
My DH is probably "average" compared to movie stars, but he's VERY sexy and handsome to me. And frankly, I don't give a rat's behind what others think.

You need to find out if he is thinking about marriage or not. Kids or not. And does that line up with what YOU want.

Does he treat you with respect? Do you enjoy your time with him? Does he look down on others? Can you sit with him in silence and be comfortable? Does he make you laugh? (That's as important as treating you with respect.)

Keep in mind, everyone has issues. You have to decide what you can live with and what are your deal breakers. (ex. cheating and abuse are my deal breakers.) My DH is a recovering alcoholic and as long as he works on being sober, we're good. If he chooses alcohol over me or our kids, then it's over. He has slipped a few times since we married, but he works on quitting and has stopped for years at a time.

Good Luck![/quote]

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