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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I am tremendously sorry that your husband had an affair.

Please don't confront your daughter.  I can say from personal experience that this can cause terrible harm.   Your husband's affair is not your daughter's fault, and if she did know before you, she may have felt tremendous guilt, or a desire to protect you from deep devastation, sadness, etc.

My dad had an affair - with a close family friend.  It was absolutely awful for my mom.  My sister and I were teenagers.  It was awful for us too.   We all felt tremendously betrayed.  My parents separated and then divorced.  It took a long time for my sister and me to be able to have a relationship with our dad, and to trust men in general.  The thing that kept us relatively sane was having a good relationship with our mom.

I am sure everythng would have been even worse if my mom had confronted my sister or me regarding the affair, and whether we had known of it, etc.   Truly, this is between you and your husband.   He owed you his fidelity, and it is with him you should be angry. Not your daughter.

Please know that ultimately my mom remarried a wonderful person.  And my dad married the woman with whom he had the affair.  Everyone is in a better place now.

I recommend therapy, for you and for your daughter.  Take care of yourself and try to preserve your relationship with your daughter at this extremely hard time.

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