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[quote=Anonymous]My parents live across the country, but they're retired, so they like to visit often. While this sounds great, they are completely unhelpful on their visits! It's gotten to the point where we only allow them to visit twice a year. They act as if they are on vacation and expect to be entertained by me or my husband every second we're not working, go out to lunch and dinner everyday, and be driven around town and on all of their errands. My parents will take a cab to go do activities while we're working, but since driving in DC is "scary" and they refuse to walk anwhere, they need me to take them to the grocery store, drug store etc.

My parents have never offered to change a diaper. They want to be with my son constantly, but they don't engage in activities with him. They sit on the couch and expect my son to want to sit on their laps and read or watch tv, but he's a crazy lil man who likes to run and jump and play! When we go to playgrounds, they complain that it's too sunny and sit in the shade. They complain about walking more than 3 blocks or so, which makes most activities difficult.

I've calmly tried to confront them about many issues, but they always deny any wrongdoing. They either tell me that what I'm telling them isn't true, or I'm making things up.

I'd love to have a better relationship with my parents (especially for the sake of my child), but they don't even think anything is wrong! I'm unsure of how to make visits go more smoothly, how to get my parents to engage with my child, and how to get them to help out. Advice, please! [/quote]

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