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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a question for you OP.

Is your nanny Hispanic/Latino? Reason being is that culturally, these groups tend to view illness in a different manner than us Americans. They tend to look down on illness...Even see it as a sign of weakness.

That may be why your nanny is being so casual about this, she may not want you to think she is weak + incapable because who really wants to be viewed in such a light?

If I were you, I would be direct w/her. This is a very important issue and not one you can sweep under the rug. If your nanny has cancer AND is going to go through treatment for it, then she needs to inform you. If she is going to go through chemotherapy and/or radiation, then she will be in no shape to care for your children, she will be hardly capable of caring for herself.

Stress this to her and let her know in no uncertain terms does any of this mean that you think any less of her. Having cancer does not make her incompetent or less valuable.

But if she is ill, she needs to take care of herself FIRST. Tell her you fully understand that + will support her as she undergoes treatment. Let her know if and when she returns, you will gladly give her back her position.[/quote]

OP here. I think this PP nailed it. Our nanny is hispanic and she absolutely sees illness as a sign of weakness. She is one of those women who is an amazing caregiver for others, but will never admit she needs care herself. I don't want her to worry about losing her job over this but I do feel like we need to discuss her health and any limitations that may come up as she goes through treatment.  She is a wonderful wonderful nanny and I would do anything to keep her, but we need to realistically consider if we need to find a temporary or back up nanny in case she gets ill with treatment. I also want her to prioritize HER health for once and to make sure that she's getting appropriate treatment, but I suppose that's overstepping my bounds as an employer. [/quote]

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