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[quote=Anonymous]I love my nanny dearly, but she is very private and absolutely tough as nails and I didn't want to press her too much for details that she was clearly uncomfortable discussing.  Last week, she was on vacation but texted to tell me that they returned early because it was raining, but that she still wouldn't come in on Friday because she was going to get a physical and update some vaccines.  Today, she tells me that she's going for an MRI on Thursday (her day off).  Then she also mentions that she'll be scheduling her appointments on her "off" days and weekends so it won't impact her work. When I pressed, she admitted that the doctor wants to start her on "preventative chemo" because everyone in her family has died of cancer. When I pressed a bit more, she hinted that there may be reason to suspect breast cancer, but that she refused a biopsy because "when you biopsy a tumor, it just causes it to spread." Then she waved me off, assuring me that she was healthy and energetic and felt absolutely fine.   I've never heard of "preventative chemo," so I assume the doctors found a tumor.  But how would they know its cancerous without a biopsy?

I told her that I understood that she doesn't like talking about these things so that I wouldn't ask again, but to please let me know how we can help and reminded her that I can alter my schedule if needed and she gives me some advance warning of doctor appointments and the like.

Is there anything I can do for her?  What should we expect if she does go through chemo?  And not to sound insensitive, but should I assume she won't have the energy to take care of my kids while she's going through treatment? Fortunately, I haven't lived through a cancer diagnosis with any close family member so I don't know what to expect.

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