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[quote=Anonymous]Has anyone had a "sip and see"?

I am a FTM expecting this fall.  In my family's culture, which is highly superstitious, we traditionally do not have baby showers.  My husband's family is American and his mother really wants to throw me a small shower (in NY, where she lives).  Only my husband's (very large) family will be in attendance a the NY shower since my family and all of our friends are local.  I'm grateful and touched that my MIL wants to throw us a shower, but I have no interest in having one of our own here in DC.  I'm in my early thirties and I'll be the first of my friends to have a baby.  Additionally, all of my close girlfriends are out of state.  Finally, by the time of our delivery, we will have been married only 12 months, so the idea of throwing yet another party and expecting people to get us yet another round of gifts, just seems to be too much.  All of that, coupled with the fact that baby showers are pretty unheard of in my culture, I just don't think we'll end up having a baby shower.

We do, however, want to celebrate a first born's birth in some meaningful way.  A friend suggested a "sip and see".  From what I understand, it's basically a gathering of friends and family, 2-3 months after the baby is born.  Open-house style - people come and go as they please during a 3-4 hour window and say hello to the parents and meet the baby.  Small plates and some drinks are served.  Gifts are not required.  Guests of both sexes are invited.  This clearly has advantages for us in that it would be post-delivery and, therefore, would comport with my family's cultural traditions and would relieve guests of feeling obligated to bring a gift within 12 months of having given us a gift for our wedding.  My issues with the "sip and see" are (1) do I really want a bunch of people and all their germs around my newborn? and (2) am I really going to be up for seeing all those people so soon after giving birth, especially if things don't go as planned and I need a c-section?

Any advice / suggestions as to the "sip and see" would be appreciated.

Thanks! [/quote]

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