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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would clarify with your brother. Does he want you to say something or not?  If he really doesn't care, I think you need to consider that this might alienate you from members of your family. For me, that would be fine because I don't want to spend time around people like that, regardless of whether we are family or not. But, you say you are going to maintain a bond not debate politics/religion, so think about the end game. [/quote]

My brother clearly doesn't want to talk about the extended family. Whenever I bring them up, he changes the subject. And I have considered it might alienate me. I'd be willing to accept that if that happens. I think they love me and respect me, and I wonder if maybe I say something it will give them pause at least before expressing their homophobia, knowing it might be hurtful to their own blood. I don't think they are bad people -- many of them are actually quite kind-hearted and generous in many ways -- but I think they are very entrenched in their churches and southern communities where it's more common to have these views. And it might do them good to hear the damage it does from someone who has a different viewpoint.

But it also might be the case that nothing will change their minds and I should try to keep these weekends to a light social occasion. And that if my brother doesn't want to engage them in this debate, I shouldn't try to do it in his name. [/quote]

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