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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, but I don't understand your timeline and facts.

You have an empty basement now that your brother moved out, but you're sleeping sitting up on a broken sofa bed rather than moving your mom into the basement on an inflatable bed ($50) or something you'd buy from Craigslist.

Mom is a senior citizen and makes $23k so she could definitely get Sec 8 or subsidized senior housing, but she won't, yet you think she'll sign up for SNAP.

You said your 1 year old child has siblings, but then you said you're about to have your second child.

You're just out of your 20s, but your mom is 70 and you have a child old enough to be in school (not the 1 year old), but you are also a professional in your field and relatively well paid for that field.

Your mother's husband is only slightly younger than her, but owed such substantial child support that she sold her home to pay it off. And his mother is still alive --how old is she?[/quote]

OP here. I am having a moment, so excuse me if I am unclear.

- my brother lived in the basement but it is only partially finished and has no bathroom. No insulation, no AC and no heat unless you put in an electric unit. My brother is not a senior, so we let him rough it down there. Not an option for my mom. Also, we do not want to live with her although otherwise, if our basement was in good condition, it would be a partial solution.

- she has applied for HUD housing vouchers (apparently there are jot many open waitlists) but those can take a while (years) to get off of and senior housing that does not require it but that is income adjusted is hard to come by in this area)

- nope, I had my third child. My brother moved in when I was having my 2nd. My mom moved in right after my third (they are very close in age)

- For. 30 yo, I think I am paid pretty well (a little over 100K). Yes, DH & I had a child at 25 and he is in school (I know DCUMers have kids older, but yes, this happens). My mom had me around 40. So yes, she is 70.

- I am actually jot sure exactly how old my mom's husband is. He has a child who is a couple years younger than I am two younger ones as well with his first wife, the youngest of which just got out of HS and he still owes money. Then he has a ~12yo oops baby. His mom is maybe in her late 80s? The don't live close by and my mom was living 3000 miles away, so I know less than maybe I should. They got together suddenly after I went to college and we had not known him before (he met my mom as he was making his rounds to borrow money from the senior home where my grandmother loved before she died according to my aunt and uncle).[/quote]

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