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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should say something as kindly and gently as possible, before this marriage gets going and there are kids. You are an atheist. That will affect what your children learn about religion or don't learn. Your MIL may have certain expectations that don't match the expectations that you and your husband have.

You're going to have bite your tongue a lot and smile and nod a lot, and so will she. But before you do that, you need to honest about who you are, so that she knows that a Children's Bible might not be the kind of birthday present you are comfortable with for your child.

Talk to your partner about how to break this to her. [b]He may want to do it himself[/b]. [/quote]

Yep.  And if your MIL is the type to pepper her conversation with religious references and that's going to drive you crazy, then you'll need to not communicate with her much and generally let DH take the lead with keeping in touch with his family.

I ultimately agree that you both need to learn to bite your tongues a bit, and MIL can't learn to do that without knowing where you're starting from (she may never, but she deserves the chance).  Biting your tongue for a long time without saying anything will only build up resentment on your part, as I know from how we dealt with evangelical family growing up.  I wish we'd been more open about our differences.[/quote]

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