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[quote=Anonymous]I can see pros and cons to moving.

In general, I think having a strong local support network is a good thing -- which to me is an argument *against* moving. Instead, maybe look at what supportive resources are available near her? Even if she doesn't need certain services now, knowing that they are available and how to access them would probably reassure you both.

Having said that, if you both feel that she'll have to move closer eventually, I would say better to move sooner rather than later -- again, because a strong local support network is a good thing. If she moves now, while she's still relatively vigorous, she'll have more time to build relationships that will help sustain her when she's older and potentially infirm.

My grandmother lived on her own, 9 hours away from her nearest kid, until she was 90. Then she had a stroke that put her in a wheelchair, and she moved to an assisted living facility near my mom.

It was really awful for both of them; my grandmother had always been a very social person, but she just wasn't up to making friends at the new place. Meanwhile, the network of friends who had been so helpful in her hometown didn't exist locally, so the entire burden for caring for her fell on my mom.[/quote]

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