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[quote=Anonymous]First of all, OP, I am in the same boat as you only my child just turned 5.  We discovered our inability to carry a year ago and are still coming to grips.  It's gotten a lot better but I still have my days.

We decided to go with Catholic Charities in our area for a number of reasons:

1. They have a charitable fund to which birth mothers apply for help and they do not allow birth mothers to request help directly from adoptive parents.  This was unlike the private agencies which basically all told me that the birth parents could ask for anything they wanted from the adoptive parents (help with rent, food, car payments, etc) on top of all the other fees you pay for.  That philosophy made me feel like I was being extorted for a child/buying a child as a commodity.  Not something I felt comfortable with.

2.  Catholic Charities only works with adoptive parents who are infertile and have exhausted all of their options.  We appreciated that support and the fact that we wouldn't have to wait in line behind people who are capable of having their own children but choosing to adopt.

3.  Their fees are much more reasonable and operate on a sliding scale - $5000 + 10% of your AGI.  And if for some reason the adoption falls through they refund your money.

4.  The mental health and educational approach that they take on both sides made us feel that everyone in the process is treated with respect and as a human as opposed to simply a "client."  They were the only agency we called who made us feel respected and listened to as opposed to "clients" in a business transaction.

We are on the waiting list and expect to begin the educational classes in September.  Once that is complete we will have our home study and then wait to be chosen.

Good luck, OP.  I think choosing an agency is terribly personal based on your own feelings, preferences, financial situation, etc.  [/quote]

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