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[quote=Anonymous]I mean, I can.  But I have to edit a lot of what I say.  Over the years I have learned to hold in any indecision I may be having, second guesses on big decisions, worries, etc.  He gets a look of physical annoyance on his face anytime I do so.  If I try to get his opinion on big, joint decisions, (for example, picking a contractor for a home repair or what school to send our daughter), he will just dismiss the question, basically leaving me to decide alone.  He told me once that he found it "very depressing" that I had expressed doubts about the school we decided to send our child to.

There is so much more.  He asks for my opinion and gets defensive when my opinion isn't in line with his.  He doesn't let me have breaks away from him and the kids without some guilt (oh you had a nice time?  You should do it more often.  But it was really HARD watching the mids all by myself...etc etc) or phone call with a tantrumy child on the other end.  There is so much more.

He is not a bad guy.  He's a good guy.  He is a good dad.  But we just don't seem to be good friends.  I feel like all the goodwill is gone.  I'm definitely not perfect in this relationship.  But I'm tired of feeling lonely.  I want a partner who I can talk with and be open with, who cares what I say and how I feel.   We fight over the stupidest things.  I hate living like this.  I have suggested counseling over and over but he still hasn't made an apointment. (He needs to make it because I never know what his work schedule will be).  I even sent him a list of counselors.  He thinks the problem is all me and doesn't see it's us.  I'm tired and lonely living with him.[/quote]

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