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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]my husband has made it clear that he is not happily married.   from our discussions this is primarily due to my weight.   i was 160lb 6ft when we met (size 8-10) and I am now a size 12 at 178lb.  I carry most of the weight in my stomach.   he is disgusted with my lack of resolve to lose it.   we have two kids together 4 and 5 and i work full time in a demanding job as does he.  we no longer have sex.   he is no longer attracted to me, and thus does not want to have sex.   per his reasoning this creates greater stress in his life and affects his work.    i did no realize that i married someone so shallow, but perhaps this was because I weighed less at the time.

i do think that he takes his workplace stress out on me verbally and is borderline verbally abusive.    i have been seeing a therapist for a couple months now.    I have considered and am still considering divorce.   He would prefer not to get divorced.   HE thinks our problems would be solved if I lost the weight.   He looking in to getting me a tummy tuck and lipo -  but determined we could not afford it.   According to him all men want a skinny wife and this would make his life happy.

even if i did lose the weight i no longer want him to lay a finger on me.

thanks for the vent.  [/quote]

There's more to this story.  Are you telling me that if I were to talk to him that he would echo the sentiments that you wrote?  I am sure there is more to this.  18lbs on a 6ft body is really nothing.  As a dad, he would be understandable about the weight esp with kids.

I have two kids.  I make a point to work out every day.  My day starts at 430AM, ends at 930PM and I have a 5 and 6 year old.  The SO cant take care of the kids due to work.

But yeah, spare us the sorrowful story of woe.  It is unfair on yourself especially to leave out important details.   I think it is highly unlikely that a husband would feel this way.  More likely that he is saying this with other issues that you are conveniently leaving out.[/quote]

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