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[quote=Anonymous]My husband travels internationally very frequently (gone about 2-3 weeks a month) and whenever he is gone, I never hear from him. Literally, he sends me a txt to let me know he arrived and then it's days before I hear from him again.. Maybe a 15 min. phone call once a week. Sometimes I do hear from him more often but only because I initiate a mini conversation via txt message. I would really like to hear from him more. I think the key to a good marriage is good communication but I feel like we have basically no communication and thus a shitty marriage. I feel very forgotten when he is gone...out of sight, out of mind...like he just doesn't give a crap anymore about my thoughts, feelings. Any attempts of mine to get him to be in contact more frequently have failed...he always just blows me off and if I display any anger to show how serious/frustrated I am, he blames it on PMS. He claims that he's literally busy the entire time working 20+ hours a day. I'm obviously not there but I don't believe it and think it's just his excuse. I've seen plenty of pictures of sightseeing while on these trips, so I feel like if he has time to do that, he certainly has time to make a phone call, or even just send a message saying "goodnight".

After dealing with this song and dance for the past couple of years, I finally blew a gasket when, after more or less forcing him to call me Sunday (I had been waiting to talk to him abt something important since Thursday), he cut it short and told me he'd have more time to talk Monday. Ok. Monday came and went and I didn't hear anything at all. Absolutely nothing. I was so disappointed. I understand things come up but at least tell me that... It takes what, 30 seconds to type a txt message? "Barbie, my meetings were rearranged so I'm not able to call you this morning as planned. I'll call you when I get a chance. Love, Ken". It's not that difficult. I feel like I'm so starved for his attention/affection that I end up making things even worse. He says I either need to deal with it or leave. That I'm the only spouse of the group who can't understand that they are busy while travelling...I can't even imagine how anybody else would be ok with this arrangement....either his coworkers call their wife more often than he thinks or the pool boy is coming over more frequently than for just the weekly pool cleaning if you know what I mean.  He has his cell phone on him at all times and his employer pays for any communications, so it's not a lack of access or money issue. He's not in the middle of the desert so it's not a cell phone tower issue. He just plain and simple doesn't make the time. So that leads me to my original question. Am I being unrealistic in wanting my husband to maintain communication more often while travelling so frequently or am I just being a needy nag? [/quote]

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