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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like I am this mom.  I don't go to the pool every day, and I have a daughter, but otherwise this is me.

I can't believe people are advising you to stay away.  I know in my case, I have been a member of my pool for 4 years.  People don't greet us, they don't say hi to us.  They have seen us repeatedly but they act like they don't know us.  I feel like we are invisible to them except that we are putting on a show as Special Needs Madonna and Child.

What I want (and again I only speak for myself), is for parents and children at our pool to SAY HELLO TO US.  SAY OUR NAMES.  Hi Larla!  Hi Larlette!  Are you having fun at the pool!

You can ask anything you want about my child's disability.  I have absolutely no problem with that and if your children are curious, that's not a problem either.  I would much rather answer questions than the total silence that reigns when I enter the pool, the looks of pity, and the times that people do talk to me as if I'm some sort of Mother Teresa and so, so wonderful to take my daughter to the pool.  I'm a MOM taking my CHILD to the pool.  End of story.  I happen to carry her because she can't walk.[/quote]

Add me this to list except that we don't go to the pool.  But we do go to restaurants, the grocery store, and target.  I have zero problem answering questions about my daughter's disabilities if they come from a kind and compassionate place.  Oh and as for your kids, they're kids who will likely follow your lead.  So, if you stare, avoid, and make for an uncomfortable situation - that's what they'll take away.  If, however, you go up say hi to her and her son and treat them like the normal people they are, your sons will follow.  Also, I would totally not be offended if a kid commented or asked why my daughter drools, or has braces, or a feeding tube in this scenario.  I am we'll versed in these things and generally have quick answers that make sense to children.  What I can't stand and often ignore are the kids with little snarky attitudes who just see us as some sort of freak show - trust me we can tell the difference in a nanosecond.

And if you want to be helpful, hold the door open for her.  Offer to take her empty shopping cart back to the rack as she is wrestling the crazy heavy wheelchair back in the car.  Just smile as you walk by.  Those are the things I appreciate.  [/quote]

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