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[quote=Anonymous]So at our pool there is this mom with a severely disabled son. He looks around 9, has a wheelchair, can't talk or walk. The mom can carry him to the water and splash a bit and he likes that. The mom doesn't talk to any one. We said hello a few times, but that's it. We see each other every day and, if her child wasn't disabled, we would already started chatting about whatever, the weather, where do you live, etc.

Call me the names that you feel I deserve, but please help me overcome my obstacles. I tend to genuinely care about people and these are the reasons that stop me:
- when a child is visibly disabled, and you like them, and you care, is it impolite to ask about the nature if his disability? In my personal view, it is more impolite and careless to ignore it and not to ask. But I don't know how to ask in a polite, respectful way. I guess there is not such thing, and anything you say can be hurtful
- my kids (4 and 6) stare at this boy. I said to them that he has a disability which means that he is different and he can't do certain things and needs help. Now that they have seen him several times, I have said 'you know what he looks like, please try to stop looking at him'. So I fear that, if I engage in a conversation with the mom, he will stare at him much close by, and ask some silly question or even show disgust if he drools or something.

So these are just some of the things that stop me talking to this nice, caring person and her boy. 
If you have a disabled child, please help me see what is offensive or not. [/quote]

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