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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Have you really thought about life without kids -- outside of the context of infertility? I look back on our life before kids -- we had them late -- after years of trying. We were extremely busy and had lots of fun. We traveled. We biked. We went to the country. We spent weeks at the beach (telecommuting) We entertained, sailed, fished, hiked, ate gourmet dinners whenever we felt like it. Took the boat out, rode our horses, visited family, entertained, maintained a second home... Do we sound rich? We weren't -- we just did not have kids.
I know the desire to have kids is a strong one, but there is defiantly a full life without them -- if only you can perceive it. With kids, life is very regimented, it is a lot of work, and a 22 year commitment. Also expensive. You really need to have child free friends to understand what life can be without kids. Just a thought...[/quote]

You don't get it, do you.  You aren't the one so devastated you cry to sleep every night longing for a child.  You aren't the one who doesn't get invited to neighbors family outdoor events as you don't have kids so they can relate to you.  At holidays, you watch as others post pictures of kids with presents and yet for you nothing....

OP, you aren't alone.  Some of us after many years of trying did get lucky but even so it took us 6 years and a lot of money to adopt.  Just as we gave up hope, it happened.  We have friends who tried that long and hard too and it didn't happen.  My heart breaks for them.  Its hard, very very very hard.  I'll never forgot those years.[/quote]

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