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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Have you really thought about life without kids -- outside of the context of infertility? I look back on our life before kids -- we had them late -- after years of trying. We were extremely busy and had lots of fun. We traveled. We biked. We went to the country. We spent weeks at the beach (telecommuting) We entertained, sailed, fished, hiked, ate gourmet dinners whenever we felt like it. Took the boat out, rode our horses, visited family, entertained, maintained a second home... Do we sound rich? We weren't -- we just did not have kids.
I know the desire to have kids is a strong one, but there is defiantly a full life without them -- if only you can perceive it. With kids, life is very regimented, it is a lot of work, and a 22 year commitment. Also expensive. You really need to have child free friends to understand what life can be without kids. Just a thought...[/quote]

I am not the OP. It is easy to say this after you have kids. [b]When you don't have kids and everyone else around you have, it's difficult to perceive fun in riding horses[/b]. I am not saying that things you mentioned are not fun. I completely understand that life gets busier after kids and then you miss the days you had all the freedom but when one is spending tens of thousands of dollars to get that one baby, all the fun activities sound trivial. [/quote]

PP above: We spent money and many years in infertility. I know what it is like. If you want to stubbornly hold onto the concept that there is no life but one with kids, then life without kids is going to be pretty bad. But, you might try considering the alternative. Also, I think there is no real "considering the alternative" if you spend all your time around families with young kids -- it is too all consuming and of course will make you feel worse.  Note the title of the thread does say ... ways to move forward.  [/quote]

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