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[quote=Anonymous]I am wondering if anyone is in a similar situation? My DH sister ( only sibling) struggled with alcohol/drugs/bad choices in her late teens/early twenties. Dropped out of college, married a horrible guy, and ended up having two children with him.  This all happened to start right around when DH and I started dating, so I have never known his family with any other dynamic.  It was so bad his Dad almost didn't come to our wedding because of drama with his sister, that is just one example but basically from day 1 our family has fallen very very low on there radar, which I do understand as his sister takes the full needs--but it is basically the mentality "we have our life together, they don't need to focus on us".  In the past 5 years his sister has been clean, but is still an absentee mom. His parents bought her a house on the same street as there house, yet the kids stay at his parents house I would say 5 nights a week...so they pretty much are the parents.  However--this means for us is our family ( including toddler daughter) are not really on there radar, they call very infrequently, visit even less and when they do come they usually bring the two grandchildren.   I have an amazing family, and so just view this interaction as sad, but not a huge deal..however it has really started to get to my DH. He comes from a family though that doesn't talk about anything....literally anything. His parents are coming just them for the first time since DD was a newborn, this weekend.  He has been telling me he wants to try to let them know that there lack of involvement /caring in his life is hard for him, and he wants them to know his daughter ( children as I am pregnant), however he is not really sure how best do this, as when he has tried in the past they just brush it off.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is there a way to approach this situation? As the wife should I be there for this talk or should I let it be between him and his parents? Anyone who has been in a similar situation and has any tips is appreciated.

Not sure if it matters, but is family lives about a 9 hour drive away [/quote]

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