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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I had a very passionate and wonderful relationship and early marriage.  But then came the kids…

His child, who he used to have 40% of the time, we now have all the time (child is 10).  We have a 5 year old and almost 3 year old, too.

We both work very high-pressure, stressful jobs (though they're relatively cyclical).  He travels a lot so I am almost always the one who has to make it home in time to relieve the nanny around 6.  We do have an amazing nanny who does so much; she truly keeps our lives working!

I know DH misses sex (we have it twice or three times a week, and to be honest I'm usually kind of a reluctant participant) and wishes I were more carefree and "fun" like I used to be, I guess.

But I am exhausted.  And I don't know how to solve that.  I do get to sleep in until 7 most mornings.  I feel like I could go to bed at 9:30 or 10, but I usually stay up late because he gets frustrated with me if I'm in bed really early.  And yes, I have had my thyroid checked and I'm on medication (the right level).

I'm definitely considering quitting my job or just taking a few projects on -- we don't need the money my job provides -- partly because I feel like I'll have more energy to be a better spouse.

I would love to hear if anyone has gone through something similar and what you did to sort of reignite yourself.  Unless what you did was develop a drug addiction to give yourself more energy. :) 
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If you are exhausted and he is not, then there is an imbalance in your workloads.  He needs to take on more AND you should consider hiring out some of it. Go to bed when you want/need it.  Talk to him about his frustration about you going to bed "early", he needs to get over it.   2-3 times a week is on the high average.  Since your life has many different complications, perhaps going to a marriage counselor to help you work through them and help you develop a good communication system would be helpful. [/quote]

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