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[quote=Anonymous]DH just told me he wants a divorce after 10 years. I am devastated...for me and my kids.  However, it looks like he is going through with it, and my concerns have to turn to the practical.  I was on bed rest for both pregnancies, and alternated between full, part-time, and SAHM as circumstances warranted.  I am currently working part-time.  I have no money for a lawyer, and make less than $20,000 per year.  Now that my situation will be changing,  I will, of course, now be trying to get full time hours or a second job.  He makes just over $100,000.  I will have full custody of the 2 kids (he's agreed to every other weekend and 8-  4 hour visits per month).  What is fair for child support?  I can not afford the house which is just barely out from underwater (we would lose the 100,000 put down on it by selling now). He offered to keep the house in exchange for taking all the debt.  I was unaware that we had racked up so much debt, but apparently he took loans I was unaware of...we have had many expenses this year.  Some of this debt though I feel are expenditures that he made that I did not approve of at all or was lied to about their cost.  However, walking away without having to split over $30,000 in debt sounds pretty okay right about now.  I also am concerned about my retirement... since I have been primary caregiver, and not always working the past 9 years of the marriage.  He also have always contributed the max to his plan.  Is there a way to equitably figure this out?  I just want what is fair and to be done with it.  I am so stressed trying to figure out how I am going to make this work, and deal with the emotional part.  Help me please!
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