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[quote=Anonymous]It would help to know how old he is.

I would consider having a long talk with him where he can really air his questions and worries, with you doing some very attentive listening, and making sure not to tell him his feelings are wrong.  Not saying you have to tell him anything you don't want to, but it might help to give him more context to understand the situation.  He's probably asking because the story doesn't make sense to him based on what he knows so far, and he wants to be able to put together a story that he feels comfortable with.  The idea that a relationship might end for reasons he can't understand is in itself scary and anxiety-producing.  Reasons like "we fought too much" or "we weren't happy" can be really scary to kids, because they don't understand the difference between everyday fights and unhappiness versus serious marital incompatibility, so they think that any fight or unhappiness can cause the end of a major relationship.

Also, consider that kids will snoop, especially if they feel something important is being unfairly kept from them.  Whatever there is to know, think about how you want him to find out.  What information is your ex likely to provide, and do you want to get out ahead of that?  [/quote]

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