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[quote=Anonymous]This was our middle son; like yours, OP, he was mature, independent and an excellent student who had been eager to go to college.  He was accepted early at his first-choice school, where his brother was already a student.  Everything was peachy until just before move-in, when he developed popsicle toes.  We acknowledged his feelings ("this is normal, sweetie") and urged him to get involved in things at school and reach out to others in friendship ("don't wait for people to knock on your door").  At move-in DH and I also had a word with his resident heads (or whatever the heck they call the married grad student couple who live in the dorm).  Both DH and I also went to parents weekend and took DS and a bunch of his pals out to dinner.  DH also went up for one of DS's sports events.  And throughout first semester we called and sent care packages (real ones and virtual ones with photos and funny cartoons and YouTube videos) more often than we had with our older DS, who is more the sensitive type and thus had been more open about anticipating homesickness*, which, consequently, made it easier for him to handle.  In the end, our middle kid was fine, of course, -- actually, more than fine, he is a rising junior now and loves the school -- but I wonder in hindsight (20-20, of course) whether it might have been easier for him if we had raised the issue of homesickness with him, rather than waiting as we did for him to bring it up.  I think he might have felt that he wasn't supposed to feel this since his older brother would be on campus and since he's not a touchy-feely kind of guy (or wasn't at that time, he's more so now, actually).

*By homesickness I mean not just missing home, parents and sibs, but also missing your HS friends and favorite teachers and coaches.  [/quote]

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