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I "escaped" my parents and came to this continent. No close family around. Now that I'm far away, I'm on good terms with my parents and other family members in my home country - because I hardly ever see them.

So I'm very happy. My kids will not grow up with a family network, but at least they're not subjected to verbal abuse, a twisted body image and guilt-tripped expectations.

It's great when you limit contact, OP. It gives you the space to appreciate from afar any good points your family may have, without being exposed to their bad points.

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This is the approach I have taken.  Skype, text, occasionally phone calls.  Very little in person interaction.

Accompanied by a lot of hard work and grieving with the help of a therapist.

Also, OP, as I am sure you know, these kinds of relationships are inherently unstable, so just because your other extended family members are distant now does not mean it will always be that way.  In my family, I've gone years without speaking to certain people and then have rekindled the relationships.  You have the power to decide if you would ever want to do that.

I am so sorry you're going through this.  We spend our holidays and social occasions alone as a family of four, and sometimes it is crushingly sad.  You have a right to feel sad.[/quote]

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