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[quote=Anonymous]Gracious sakes, a whole week of every month? I think you're going to have to be straight-up with them and be willing to risk a blow-up...because, frankly, continuing the way things are is risking a blow-up too.

"Mom and Dad, we love you so much, and we're glad you're generous with your time and energy.  We're starting to get busier and busier, and it's just not working for us anymore to have such frequent visits...."

And then here you need a suggestion to make relevant to your situation, but I think something like a three day weekend three months after the most recent visit would be right.

And then to the inevitable opposition: "Yes, I know you're disappointed. Let's be thankful things have worked out for us to see each other so much for so long, and now our calendar is just getting fuller. I hope you'll consider the invitation."  And then get off the phone as soon as possible and brace yourself to hold firm for any blow-back guilt-tripping after that.

Be prepared to say over and over: "That's just not going to work, Mom."  "I'm sorry, that's not an option for us."  It may be yucky for awhile, but you've got to find a way to break this pattern and settle into a new one that doesn't make you crazy.[/quote]

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