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[quote=Anonymous]About 6 months ago I met an amazing man on an online dating site.  We clicked pretty quickly and developed a strong connection.  We waited a long time (a few months) to become intimate.  I am divorced (was married 12 years) and he is separated from his wife.  He lives abroad but was here because this is where his wife and children moved (she is from the US) after they separated.  The wife and children will remain here and he will go back to his country and visit every few months and to come take his children back for holidays, etc. . . .

Anyway, he has now been back in his country for about a month and his divorce will be official next week.  While I have developed very strong feelings for him, I realize that our situation is unlikely to work because 1.  He lives so far away  2.  he needs time to get over the divorce and figure out his life.  When he first went back we texted often but eventually the texting became less and less.  I told him that I needed to let him go to get on with his life and process the divorce.  We didn't talk for awhile and then a few weeks ago out of the blue I got a text from him saying he misses me and wants to be friends.  I asked him to define friends.  He wants us to have a strong friendship where we talk about our lives and we go out to eat when he is here to catch up, etc.  I told him that due to the fact that I really like him I would be unable to do that.  I think that that kind of friendship would mess with my mind.

He is coming to visit in July and I am wondering if I made the right choice.  Should I be friends with him and see him whenever he visits and hope that a relationship will one day occur or should I move on and cease all contact with him?   His divorce is official next week and I want to reach out to him but I am not sure if I should.  Any insight would be very helpful thanks.[/quote]

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