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I hate to say it, but you would be much better off to trade off and even pay a friend to have your son stay with them for a night or two away trip with your DH.  There are too many unknowns in this "possible arrangement" from the underlying sibling strife, to not knowing how child proofed the house is, to not knowing how your son will react in a strange house and with grandparents who are pretty much strangers.  We just this summer will keep our 5.5 year old twin granddaughters who we see every couple of months at their home or here because it has just evolved that they have a much closer relationship with the other grandparents who more freely than we can "open their home" to them.  We want the girls to be comfortable and to enjoy the week with us.  We have watched them in their own home for a short time.

If  you truly want things to change, then you need to talk to DH to have him talk to his sister(s) about whatever went down in the past.  It would be the perfect time to say that neither side should feel a winner or loser when it is really their nephew and parents in terms of a possible close relationship.  And perhaps you can share your thoughts with your in-laws who probably are trying to remain neutral to try and see if they can make the same pitch to SIL who is in their home.  For this summer, you might lay the ground work by visiting your husband's family whether SIL is there or not, introducing the idea of saying with grandparents by one or two short times away during your area visit.  It would give you some couple time and give you both a reasonable expectation that a longer overnight visit would work with your son and go from there.

Sad when adults can't find common ground, but  I unfortunately see the biases my parents have held against their own siblings and one SIL still in old age and even after death.  Harsh opinions can be set in stone for a lifetime, and I would strongly suggest to your husband whether he is right or not, that he is also now a father and time to at least to try to make things right with his sisters.[/quote]

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