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[quote=Anonymous]My FIL is an actual alcoholic and we keep an entirely alcohol free home, so his visits are tense. We live around the corner from a restaurant with a great  selection of beers. We hoped FIL would be able to respect our wishes by not bringing liquor into our home and we hoped he would be able to excuse himself to the corner place if he really wanted a drink, but he wasn't able to control himself and it's clear that with any future visits, we'll need to arrange for the ILs to stay at a nearby hotel or AirBnB place. I also had an alcoholic grandfather growing up and my mom managed it very well - giving us plenty of opportunities to spend time with him during his sober hours and shielding us from his darkest hours.  FIL gets very mean when he's drunk, so it's not just about shielding the kids from the bad example of drinking like that, but it's also about keeping our home a safe place, free of verbal abuse.

Anyway, you & DH have to decide what the rules are for your home. If other guests are allowed to drink wine at your dinner table, then you can't really tell your ILs they're not allowed to. But if other guests don't get to take over your fridge, then it's fair game for your to curtail that. [/quote]

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