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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have typically had my father and his wife stay with us when the visit us.  We have also stayed with them in the past when we visit them, many states away.  Now that I'm expecting, we've changed the latter.  The last time we visited, we stayed at a nearby hotel -- because my stepmother is a chain smoker.  Although she says she only smokes outside, their entire house reeks of smoke and so do all of their clothes.  My doctor had advised me not to stay overnight in their house because of the secondhand smoke.

I'm due later this year, and they want to come visit us after the baby is born.  In previous visits, we've just had her smoke outside and then dealt with getting the smoke smell out of our house after they've gone back home.  What do we do now?  I don't think I want her sleeping in my house, even if she smokes outside, with my newborn.  Would I be a crazy, overbearing FTM to have them stay in a hotel, definitely not smoke at my house, and have her change her shirt (and of course wash her hands) before holding the baby?  I just cringe at the thought of her holding the baby so close to a sweater that reeks of smoke.

So, am I overreacting to the idea of thirdhand smoke?  I hate to add additional costs to their trip for the hotel and have my father not be in the same home as the baby, but I'm not sure what else to do.[/quote]

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