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Then you put your foot down and tell him you refuse to be treated in this disrespectful way. No discussion unless he apologizes for the nanny comment, and talks to you in a constructive manner, instead of laying all the blame on you.

Model respectful communication. Remain calm and collected, no emotion. Which does not prevent you from replying acidly to his little power trips.

BTW: DC2 is 4 and has only just started sleeping through the night in her own room! I co-slept with her and nursed her to sleep until she was 2.5, and do not regret it. 
DH also used to forced DC1 to eat - he's backed off now with DC2. Sometimes it takes a few years to iron out parenting differences. In the meantime, stick to what you believe is right.

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OP again.....I tried. I really tried to remain calm and unemotional. It is hard after being told for 2 hours that you suck as a person and a parent. When I told him that I tried CIO once and I couldn't handle it, I was blamed for doing it while he wasn't there (he traveled extensively when DD was first born). I said but I asked for help at night and was told that because he worked long hours I wasn't allowed to ask for help at night. That he needs uninterrupted sleep. And since I didn't have to work (maternity leave at the time), I had to do all the night stuff - including on the weekends.

If there's one thing that really gets under my skin, is when he tells me what I think or believe. He says, " well you think its normal for a couple to put themselves on hold while they have a young child".....BUT I NEVER SAID THAT! Stop putting words in my mouth. So I got upset and said fucking stop. At which point I was told that I was further damaging my (sleeping) child because who knows if she heard that through her (sound machine running) room. [/quote]

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