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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A cop isn't going to get a detailed medical history from an alleged hit and run witness.

Be honest and send a letter stating that you just want to know about medical history.[/quote]

Sorry, I didn't explain this well.  My husband, as a cop, could go to my bio-father's office and ask to speak to him privately about a hit-and-run he may have witnessed or something similar.  Then, once alone, tell bio-father who he was and what we want from him.  I have no idea if my bio-father has a family or if he does, if they know he fathered a child prior.  A cop asking to speak to a potential witness wouldn't invite as many questions as a woman (me) showing up.

[b]As for contacting him directly in a letter - I just don't want to.  I don't want to risk his asking to see me.  I just want the medical information.[/b]  [/quote]

Having your husband visit him to ask, in uniform, seems unethical at the very least. In fact, I think it's the worst idea I've heard in a long time.

Write him a letter, and give him your mailing address. If he asks to see you, firmly and kindly tell him that you don't want that much contact.

In short, be a grown-up. You will survive, without all the silly drama of anybody showing up in anybody's office wearing any kind of uniform. [/quote]

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