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[quote=Anonymous]So my MIL and I are 2 VERY different people.  Honestly we have next to nothing in common. I grin and bear it when she is here visiting but it is painful.  Not only because we have nothing in common; but also, because she brings out the worst in my kids.  She acts like a child herself, but not in a good playful way...in a bad influence way.  Last time she taught my six year old to say "What the..." when things go wrong.  She left off the final word, but I would rather my son not saying that at school...since we all know what comes next.  She kept doing it too (even when we asked her to stop) because she thinks it is funny.  She also sticks her tongue out all the time, swears, and tells them stories that are inappropriate for their ages, etc.  You get my drift.  Those are only a few small examples, but it is constant.  Not to mention  the fact that she gives virtually no regard to their safety because she is too busy being "cool."

Anyway, I deal with it because I have to.

Today, my husband tells me that he will be working during her next visit, so I will have the honor of entertaining her the whole time.  Keep in mind this woman will not lift a finger to help with anything.  So, I am left with her and my 3 kids.  I am so frustrated.  At the very least, he could be there to help out, and this is not the first time he has pawned her off on me.

Just anticipating her visit makes me feel serious anxiety (chest pains, etc), let alone when she is here.  I wonder how those of you in similar situations cope with that feeling of dread and anxiety. I know it is unhealthy, and I should just grin and bear it, but I am finding it harder to do that.  I can't just stay away from her either, because the kids get hurt virtually every time she comes because she just doesn't watch AT ALL.  It is not like I expect her to helicopter either.  Just normal stuff.  Like it is probably not a good idea for a 2 year old to climb onto the top of a refrigerator and be left there... Time feels like an eternity when she is here, and I feel so suffocated.  Any ways you guys cope?

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